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The Toughest Questions After a Tragedy

“Why would someone do that?” 

This is the question my daughter asked when we were finally able to be together (alone) on Friday.  I honestly told her I didn’t know for sure, and that we may never know for sure.

As the days have gone on, we have learned that this wasn’t someone who just went in and started shooting because he was mad at his mom.  Early reports that she was there and was the target (implying that the students and other adults were just victims in the right place at the wrong time).  Slowly we are learning that there is a much broader and deeper story – as is typically the case when something horrific happens.

So before we continue to judge without knowing all the facts, let’s stay focused on what is important:Talking on a Bench

  • Showing our children how much they are loved.
  • Showing our family how much they are loved.
  • Showing our friends how much they mean to us.
  • Giving ourselves time and patience when things go wrong.
  • Giving each other the benefit of the doubt when they do or say something that strikes us in a negative manner.
  • Giving another a compliment, word of encouragement or hug of support.

My friend Therese sent out this prayer by Fr. James Martin, SJ, which I found insightful to answer the other question I’ve been seeing in comment sections:  Where was God?

Where were you, God?

We are crushed with grief, God.
We cannot bear to think of so many people killed.
We cannot bear to think of children being killed.
It is unthinkable to us, the worst tragedy.

Where were you, God?
How could you let this happen?
Why is your world like this?
We are sad and angry and confused.

But God, we know that you know what it means to have
A child die.
For your Son died a violent death.

And we know that your Son understands grief.
For he wept bitterly when his friend Lazarus died.
And he was moved with compassion when he saw suffering.
His heart broke like our hearts do.
He cried like we do today.

We know too that your Son raised Lazarus from the dead.
And that you raised your own murdered Son from the grave,
As a sign of the eternal life you have planned for us.
The life into which you now place the victims, whom you loved.
And love.

We know that you understand our terrible anguish.
You accept our bitterness and our confusion too.
And we know that your Son is beside us, weeping with us.

We know that you are still with us God, in the darkness.
In our compassion for the families and friends of the victims.
In the love that moves us to care for one another.
In the anger that drives us to put an end to violence,
As your Son tried to do in his time with us.

Most of all, eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord,
And let perpetual light shine upon them.

Amen, O Lord, Amen!


One comment on “The Toughest Questions After a Tragedy

  1. Joyce Laws
    December 17, 2012

    I don’t believe God lets things like this happen. They happen because of the sin in the world and our free wills. By free will we have allowed God to be removed from our public schools and prayer also. Please don’t blame him for something Satan is responsible for. If we look back at the time of Jesus’ birth we see an evil leader who ordered little children killed. And “Racehl weeping for her children”. Jesus was protected so that he could pay the ultimate sacrifice. I pray for each of the families of the victims of this tragedy. It is so sad. May God somehow receive “GLORY, NOT BLAME”
    Blessings, Joyce

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