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Reach Out Before You Act. You Matter.

Like many of you, I heard the story about the school girl who jumped off a bridge and killed herself. Initial stories said she was upset about a shaming punishment her dad gave her. Other stories piled on reasons for her actions: she had been bullied in school, she hadn’t been allowed to run for student council.

This report clarifies that all these reasons were wrong. According to authorities, she left several notes explaining why she was going to kill herself. It seems she was ashamed of things she had done and said on social media; she thought one thing in particular was going to follow her for the rest of her life.


My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide. There is no one to blame or shame. This is just an opportunity to share.

When you look at the big picture, rarely are things as bad as you might think right now. And you will be sorely missed by many people.

Before you take drastic action, please reach out to someone…a friend, a family member, a teacher, a co-worker, or someone waiting to answer a call on one of these hotlines:

  • The 24-hour National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255
  • Teens struggling with depression can also call 866-833-6546 (866-TEEN-LINK)

You matter.


5 comments on “Reach Out Before You Act. You Matter.

  1. dcpassion2009
    June 11, 2015

    Reblogged this on Da UGLY Ducklin and commented:
    She was sooooooo beautiful, and also the encouraging words you spoke to anyone who may be suffering from any form of shame, bullying, heartbreak, disrespect, hurt or the likes. She was young and it’s hard to believe she was fearful that something she mistakenly shared online would haunt her later in life… Perhaps she shared a pic revealing too much, even if somebody was being mean and circulated it. It would’ve died down in weeks, at most two months… But, so much other stuff is going on these days on social media that her little mishap would fall to the back burner rather quickly.

    You want to control your teen as far as social media is concerned and rightfully so… I mean most of the craziness that teens find themselves in the mix of generates first through one of the social media sites. Nonetheless, girls in whole love their hair… Me and my daughter’s are always saying, when we don’t have new clothes for an outing or special occasion that long as our hair is nicely done we’ll look and feel fine. But, this baby had to stand and look at her pride and joy on the floor SMH… This is still no reason to criminally charge the father though… Even though I’m angered by his outlandish choice of punishment.

    To add, long beautiful hair in fact means a lot to girls/women, but I’m sensing it was a multitude of things that drove this Lil sweetheart to do what she did… I’d love to see her last eight letters, just to get a better idea of EXACTLY what the final straw was that broke the camel’s back, and figure out in advance ways that Alone No More will help anyone with her same issues.

    My deepest condolences to the family.


  2. The D.I.V.A. Sessions
    June 11, 2015

    Wow this so sad!! My condolences to the family.

  3. concernedmom521
    June 12, 2015

    What a sad story. How I wish she would have reached out. Thank you for sharing.

  4. anita ibeakanma
    June 12, 2015

    Reblogged this on Anita.com.

  5. Elka Bolhafner
    October 8, 2016

    I was, just today, telling a couple of family members about how great a gift the Sacrament of Reconciliation is– I hope this doesn’t seem glib. I realize some mistakes can follow us a lifetime. Thanks for sharing these resources

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